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Tiffany Lee GastonThere are times when sitting out is not an option; when being a joiner is a must. When it comes to my children and their wants and needs, I am grateful to be forced into these situations at times, because they stretch me for the better.  And while its not always easy to be a wife, mother and figure competitor, I realize my daily race is best run with a little discomfort.  I must never slow down, only open my eyes a bit more to my surroundings along the journey.  Observing more, listening harder, caring more openly and giving of myself more freely have been traits I may not have been that gifted with, but are things I strive to improve upon.

These little people I’m raising have taught me so much about myself that it’s unreal.  In all the years I contemplated having children and in wanting to be prepared to provide for them, I was very confused in just what I thought I wanted to provide.  Turns out they’d be schooling me more than any of them would ever know.

In the game of life, we learn along the way so long as we are open to it.  Nothing really ever prepares us for specific events, like those events themselves.  I consider myself educated daily in patience, love and understanding and in having a huge sense of humor.  I am grateful for the ability to make the memories we’ve made and met the friends that we’ve collected on the journey.  These kids of mine have no clue that the one learning the most is me, their mother.

I wanted to share this powerful excerpt from Dennis Waitley’s, Seeds of Greatness.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.  It really makes you stop and think about how you respond to your kids.  Sometimes, all we really need is to just be heard.  Your children are no different.


 Take a Moment to Listen

 Take a moment to listen today

To what your children are trying to say;

Listen today, whatever you do

Or they wont be there to listen to you.

Listen to their problems; listen for their needs

Praise their smallest triumphs; praise their smallest deeds;

Tolerate their chatter, amplify their laughter

Find out what’s the matter, find out what they’re after

But tell them you love them, every single night

And though you scold them, be sure you hold them

Tell them “Everything’s all right;

Tomorrows looking bright!”

Take a moment to listen today

To what your children are trying to say

Listen today, whatever you do

And they will come back to listen to you.