From the first time I read Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff… and it’s all small stuff by Richard Carlson 12 years ago, this is the main thing I’ve taken from it, “when you die, your inbox will still be full.” This reminds me to try to balance my life a bit better and gear myself towards the important stuff first. The people most important to you should always come first.
“The theory describes a Type A individual as ambitious, rigidly organized, highly status conscious, can be sensitive, care for other people, are truthful, impatient, always try to help others, take on more than they can handle, want other people to get to the point, proactive, and obsessed with time management. People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics” who multi-task, push themselves with deadlines, and hate both delays and ambivalence.”
Ouch, burns a little bit. I feel I do a pretty good job offsetting it both with wine and exercise so don’t cry for me, I’m good. Like a devil with two heads on my shoulder, I’m often unsettled when I don’t finish something I set out to do. From laundry and dishes to my writing, cooking and kids activities, I would drive myself insane. The key word is “I”. No one else is going to be upset with me if I don’t get it all done.
We are hardest on ourselves. I really started emphasizing the priority of everything in my day. I implemented this strategy for myself recently and can already feel the positive effects it has created. One major thing I’ve done to achieve more inner peace is to step away from the technology. I work as much as I need to while my kids are at school. Once they are home, my attention is diverted to them. Homework, after-school sports, it doesn’t stop. If I have an idea then I simply write it down. It can all wait. I think the people in my life will feel the value they have in my eyes for making them first. That is key to me finding my balance.